DC

Thanksgiving

What things about me remind you of anyone from your past, either past sweethearts or good friends?
Do you have a favorite type (or a couple) of music? A favorite singer? Or musical group?
If you could have any pets you wanted and had the space and money to properly care for them, what pets would you want to have?
Have you ever committed a felony? Have you ever been arrested?
Do you think astrological birth signs represents ones character? Why?
How would you feel about your spouse opening your personal mail? Bills?
Are there duties or chores that you don't think you would do in a marriage? (take out the trash, mow the lawn, clean bathrooms, iron, etc)
How do you feel about the way your parents raised you? How did they do a good job and how did they mess up?
Do you think you could ever give up your current life and move half way around the world for someone you love or for a perfect job?
Do you think it is a good idea and shows maturity to be able to casually date more than one person at a time? At what point do you feel it is necessary to date only one person exclusively?
What are you most fearful of? How does that fear keep you from doing things you would like to do?
Has anyone ever thrown an extra special birthday party for you? What made it so memorable?
Do you have a dream that repeats again and again? What is it?
What feeling do you have the most difficulty controlling?
What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?
Do you like your first name? Have you ever wished you had a different name? What name would it be?
Do you think you would prefer a calm, loving, consistent marriage or one that was full of excitement, wild times and rocky patches?
Do you have a favorite movie? Actor? Actress? Comedy? Drama?
If you didn't like your mate's clothing or hairstyle, would you tell him or her? Would you want your partner to tell you?
Do you have any phobias, fears or concerns about going to the doctor?
Have you ever traveled out of the country? Do you have a passport? When does it expire?
What is your primary mode of transportation? Do you wish you had a different option?
What were you teased about when you were younger? How did that make you feel? Did you tease others?
What is your favorite holiday? Why is it so special to you?
If you had to take a paid sabbatical and couldn't work for an entire year, what would you most like to do?
On a typical month, how much is your long distance phone bill? Does that include international calls?
How often do you balance your checkbook?
How many physical fights have you been in? Do you usually start them? Why do you fight?
Do you allow your pets to be on the furniture?
Has anyone very dear to you died? How did you handle it?
Do you remember what your favorite childhood books were?
How do you feel about dogs that are bred to attack and have been known to kill children (Pit Bulls, Rotweillers, etc.)?
If you had problems with my personal hygiene, would you be able to tell me?
When, if ever, was the first time you smoked a cigarette? Why did you try it? How long did you smoke? If you still smoke, have you ever seriously tried to quit?
Do you get irritated when you have to wait in long lines? Will you wait 45 minutes to be seated in a restaurant?
Are you chirpy in the morning or are you a grouch?
Have you ever given a speech? What was the last one about?
Do you think that luck has much to play in your life?
Do you find it difficult to compromise on things?
Are you a balanced person? If so, how did you get to be balanced? If not, what steps do you need to take to be more balanced?
Were you a good teenager or did you give your parents a lot of grief?
Did you ever run away from home? If so, why?
What are three goals you have for this year?
How long do you usually take to get ready in the morning?
Do you allow anyone to smoke in your house?
Are you able to fall asleep with the lights on? TV on?
What is your favorite type of art? Do you feel you are artistic in any way?
Do you have a favorite bar or place of entertainment? How often do you go there?
Do you have a location in the movie theater where you prefer to sit?
What sports do you watch on television? College, Pro or both?
Do you go into Internet chat rooms? Are they general chat rooms or devoted to a certain topic?
About what things are you most selfish?
How did you feel when a beloved pet of yours died?
When you are sick and feeling poorly, do you like to be alone or do you like to be pampered and have someone close to your side most of the time?
What is the most thoughtful, caring thing you have ever done?
If you had to be a different nationality, what country would you like to have been born in? Why?
If you were given $50,000 to throw a party for all of your friends, what sort of party would you put together?
Are you a morning, a night person or somewhere in the middle?
Are you allergic to animals? If your fiancé was allergic to your pets, would you be willing to give them away to a good home?
Do you think that it is cruel to keep a dog in a cage or tied up most of the time?
Do stylish clothes, nice hair, expensive jewelry or "things" make you feel better about yourself?
Do you think you tend to attract a certain type of person?
Do you feel like you need to dress sexy? Why or why not? Do you feel that people who dress sexy are sending the message that they are interested in sex?
How often do you get sick? Is it a cold, flu or usually something else?
Do you live to eat or eat to live?
What do you think are your optimum hours of sleep to be fully energized?
Do you ever diet? What sort of diets do you usually go on?
Have you ever hit someone in a previous relationship?
Would you rather take a one-week $5000 vacation or would you rather go on three different one-week vacations that cost $1700 each?
What is the maximum length vacation you think you could take away from work without causing a problem? If you were retired or between jobs how long could you be away?
Are you listed as an organ donor on your driver's license for when you die? Would you like for your organs to be donated?
Do you have a position on the government killing men and women who have knowingly committed murder?
Would you be able to marry someone who formerly was in a gay relationship or had a few homosexual experiences prior to dating you?
Do you have guidelines regarding movies you will not see?
Do you use foul language? Why do you do it? Does it bother you when you hear others cuss?
Do you think you could go skinny dipping with your mate in private? How about with a group of people you knew?
Have you ever been to or would you ever go to a nude beach? What is your opinion on nudism (people who enjoy being nude around others - not in a sexual way)?
Besides traffic violations, have you ever knowingly broken a law? What did you do? Do you believe that there are some laws that aren't necessary to be kept?
Do you believe in God? What were you raised to believe about religion?
If you are turned off on religion is it because of bad experiences you have had with humans or is it because you are unhappy with God?
Do you have any customs or rituals regarding celebrating births and remembering deaths in your family?
About how many times a month/year do you attend church services?
Do you ride motorcycles? Do you wear a helmet when bicycling or motorcycling? Is it the law where you live?
Do you wear your seat belt when you are in a vehicle? If not, would you wear one if your mate asked you to because they love you?
Have you ever received a D.W.I./D.U.I.? How many and how long ago?
Do you currently hitchhike from time to time? Have you ever?
Have you ever performed on stage in a band, a play or other performance? How did it make you feel?
Did you ever hang out with the wrong crowd in school? Did your parents know about it?
Were you always getting in trouble for a particular thing when you were a child?
What school sports and activities did you participate in up through college?
Is there anything you feel you must accomplish before you die? What steps do you need to take to achieve these goals?
Do your religious beliefs prohibit the celebration of certain holidays?
Where do you think you would be most comfortable living? City or country? Near the beach or closer to the mountains? Hot, warm or cold climate?
Do you like to have chores scheduled or just do them when they need it (or you feel like it)?
If you had to pick a different city to live in with your sweetheart and proximity to family and friends didn't matter, which city would it be?
Have you ever hired a cleaning service? Do you think they are a waste of money or money well spent?
How often do you go clothes shopping?
Do you have problems letting someone else control the remote control? Are you a channel surfer?
What sort of parties do you enjoy going to? Do you like to go for a short while or stay until most people have gone?
What do you think is the common link among all (or at least most) of your friends? (School, Work, Personality, Hobbies, etc.)
Do you have problems letting friendships dissolve when you realize you have little in common? Do you feel obligated to keep close family ties with relatives you would not normally choose to socialize with? Is it ever appropriate to "divorce" yourself from
Do you like it when friends feel comfortable enough to drop by unexpectedly?
Who is your least favorite relative? Do you try to avoid him or her?
Do you have a favorite relative? What makes them so special?
Is your family important to you? Why?
Do you think you could live more than six hours away from your parents and/or siblings?
On a typical day/night out with your friends, what do you do?
On average, how many hours do you work in a given week?
If your employer saw everything you did at work, what grade would he or she give you? A B C D or F?
Overall, how satisfied are you with your boss? Do you always seem to have "bad" bosses?
Do you "take your job home with you"?
Do you get a lot of satisfaction from your job - do you feel you are somehow making a difference?
Do you think you would ever have interest in running for a political office?
Would it be okay for your partner to call you at work? Visit you?
If you were single and quite wealthy, how would you weed out the "gold diggers"?
Would you ever spend $100 on a bottle of wine? $300? Under what circumstances?
Have you ever sued someone or been sued? What were the circumstances?
Do you have any fears of deeply loving someone?
In order for you to trust someone, what do you need to see in him or her?
How do you feel about your boyfriend/girlfriend showing up at your house without warning?
How long is it wise to wait to tell someone you love him or her? Should you try to build a good friendship first?
As a general rule, do you always kiss on a first date? What signal do you think kissing is giving?
Have you ever lived with someone you were dating? In what ways did it lead to your break up?
Do you consider yourself in shape?
How many drinks does it take until you are definitely "feeling it." Do you cut yourself off after a certain number of drinks? Or when do you know you have had enough?
Have you ever had an emotional breakdown or been diagnosed with a mental illness? How long did the recovery take?
What form of exercise do you prefer?
Do you currently suffer from a sleeping disorder? Have you ever?
Do you enjoy eating leftovers? Do you refuse to eat leftovers?
Do you get a regular medical checkup? When was your last one?
Have you ever done any stupid or dangerous things when you were drunk? Like what?
Do you regularly take vitamins? Do you think the foods you eat have enough naturally occurring vitamins in them?
Could you ever be married to someone whose breath and clothes always reeked of tobacco?
What was the best vacation you've ever taken?
Have you ever been on a group tour? What do you think about them?
Do you like to take vacations that are activity oriented (cycling trips, skiing trips, scuba trips, etc.)?
If you plan on abstaining from sex until marriage, what sort of physical contact is acceptable? (holding hands, kissing, prolonged kissing, petting, etc.)
Is there anyone you would be willing to die for?
Do you vote regularly? Do you vote straight Republican, Democrat or other party? Or do you analyze each candidate and vote for who you think is most qualified regardless of party affiliation?
Are you currently involved in any criminal activities right now?
What has been your most negative experience with your religion or other religions?
What has been your most positive experience with your religion or other religions?
How important is religion when deciding to seriously date someone? What religious differences would cause you serious doubts about a long-term relationship?
Have you seriously studied other faiths besides your own? If you are a Christian do you know what other denominations believe and teach?
What doctrines are essential for a church to teach in order for you to be able to become a member?
Do you attend the church you were brought up in? Would you consider attending a different church/denomination if your spouse desired?
How often do you think your gut feeling is correct? When can you remember that it was incorrect?
What one skill do you wish you had learned but haven't yet (Play the piano? Learn a foreign language? Fly a plane? Etc.)?
Does public speaking frighten you? Have you had much experience with it?
If you knew you would die in two days, how would you spend the time until then?
How many hours does it take until you can't stand being alone anymore?
What makes life worth living?
If you could choose to know everything about one topic, what area would you choose to be an expert?
How would someone be able to tell if you're happy? If you're sad?
Are you an organized person?
Do you enjoy debating others?
In what ways do you feel really blessed?
What things tend to make you angry? How do you usually react when you are angry?
What is a talent that you wish you possessed?
Do you write important dates such as birthdays and anniversaries in your calendar? Do you use a calendar? Do you usually remember those dates?
Have you ever played any musical instruments? Which ones and do you still play them?
If you had to be famous, what would you want to be famous for? Do you think fame would be a good thing or a bad thing for your relationship?
How do you feel when someone close to you disagrees with you?
In which areas of your life do you feel like you are an independent?
In which areas are you dependent on others?
Do you currently believe that you are mature and experienced enough to be able to build and maintain a very successful marriage? When did you feel you were ready or when do you think you will be there?
Which do you think should have the final say in decisions - logic or emotions? Why?
In what circumstances do you feel most at peace?
Do you think of yourself as mechanically inclined?
If you were given the opportunity to successfully run for president, would you do so? When you won, what three things would you most like to improve in your country?
If someone gave you one million dollars that you were required to give to some person or organization, who would you give it to?
Do you enjoy hugging people? Do you like receiving hugs?
What's your favorite alcoholic/non-alcoholic beverage?
Do you get your pets "fixed" or do you allow them to keep producing litters? What do you do with the babies?
Are there any circumstances where you think it is a good idea to put animals "to sleep"?
How do you feel about permanent tattoos? Why do you think most people get them?
If you suddenly became blind, how would your idea of the perfect mate change?
Do you believe in love at first sight? If so, what about the millions of cases when love at first site ended in disaster?
Have you ever suffered from depression (not just feeling blue, but a feeling of extreme sadness that leaves you nearly paralyzed)? If so, what brought these feelings on, how long did the depression last and what therapies worked for you?
Have you ever had serious thoughts about committing suicide? What are your thoughts about those who kill themselves?
What are your feelings about recreational drugs? Have you ever taken any and if so, how long did you use drugs? Do you still use them?
Do you smoke (or chew tobacco)? How often? How long have you been doing so and have you ever tried to stop? What methods?
Have you ever deliberately thrown up food or ate tiny amounts of food to lose weight?
How much time per day/week do you currently exercise? How much time do you think you should spend? How do you think we could help each other with our exercise regimens?
Do you have any particular health concerns (e.g. heart problems, high blood pressure, diabetes, asthma, etc.)?
Do you like to travel on the spur of the moment (hey, let's drive to the mountains next weekend)?
How many times during the year do you travel? How many times for business and how many pleasure vacations?
How much does your typical one week vacation cost (not including air fare)? Do you think you take budget vacations, moderate or expensive trips?
When you travel, what is your usual goal (relax, sight see, see friends/family, do culture things, eat at new restaurants, etc.)?
Do you go back to the same places again and again or do you desire to go to new places most of the time when you travel?
Do you fly as cheaply as possible or do you splurge for business or first class when going on vacation?
Do you think you could kill a person if they were threatening the life of your loved ones?
Would you steal a car for $200,000 if you would be certain that you would not be caught? What about for $1,000,000?
How would you feel if one of your friends said he or she was gay? Would you still want to socialize with him or her?
How do you feel about men and women killing people from other countries? Have you already been in a war? How did it affect you to have to kill (or support those who killed) others?
Are you an activist for any causes?
Are you often embarrassed about how most of your race behaves? Do you think your race is superior to all others/most?
Do you believe in ghosts, angels or extraterrestrial beings? Why?
If you have religious convictions regarding sex before marriage, what boundaries should you set up so you live up to those convictions?
If you say you are a religious person, do you really practice it? Have you studied your religion's doctrines? In which ways are you not actively following your faith?
Is it more important that you attend a church where you are comfortable or is it more important that you worship with your husband/children? What do you think of couples who each attend their own Christian church?
Could you marry someone who does not share your fundamental religious beliefs?
When we die, what do you think happens to us? What do you base your opinion on?
Do you prefer to be the passenger or the driver? Are you a back seat driver?
Do you let your friends drive your vehicle if they need one to run an errand? Would you let you mate drive it on a regular basis?
What do you feel is important in a vehicle for you (seats 5, reliable, good gas mileage, built like a tank, looks good, fast, etc.)?
How do you usually spend the "big" holidays? Do you do so mainly out of tradition or because you really enjoy celebrating it that way?
Do you decorate elaborately for holidays? Would you like to put up more decorations if you had the time/money?
Do you like to throw holiday parties or dinners? What do you usually do?
If you didn't receive any gifts for Christmas (or the major holiday you celebrate) how would you feel?
Do you usually listen to music around the house? What kind? How loud?
Do you think there are any books or movies I should read or see? Why these?
Do you screen phone calls before answering the phone? Can you let the phone ring during meals or when company is over or do you feel compelled to always answer it?
Do you have pests (mice, roaches, spiders, etc.) at your house? Would you use an exterminator if your mate asked you to?
What are your favorite hobbies? Would you like to spend more time on them?
What shows on television do you always watch?
How many movies do you usually watch in a month?
How many hours a day on average do you spend on the computer/Internet (not counting time spent for work)?
Do you collect anything? How long have you been collecting? Why do you collect?
Which newspapers/newsmagazines do your read? How often? How often do you watch the news?
What family traditions did you have growing up? Would you want your children to continue them?
What is the most important thing you learned from your father? What are some other things he taught you?
What makes the difference between a good parent and a great parent?
Do you work better alone or with a team? Why?
At what age or what level of financial stability (loans paid off, x dollars in savings) would you like to retire? How do you think you would spend your retirement?
What decisions have you made regarding how you plan to balance work and play?
Are you a virgin? If so, do you plan on staying one until you are married?
How do you feel about having sex during the woman's menstrual period?
What is the difference between sex and romance?
If a fire destroyed your home and all of your belongings, what would you do? If you could take out three things before the blaze, what would they be? (Assuming there is no one in the house at the time of the fire.)
If you were a very talented writer and were guaranteed to sell 100,000 copies of whatever book you wrote, what would it be about?
Does any particular season make you happier than others? If so, do you know why?
Do you like to exaggerate things for effect?
Do you think you are a fairly typical man/woman in the way you think, act and believe?
Are you one who adapts to change easily? Can you cite some examples?
Do you have a child's heart sometimes? What sort of “childish” things do you think about doing?
Are you generally an optimist, pessimist or a realist?
How often do you cry? What situations often bring you to tears?
What makes you feel secure and safe?
Do you tend to analyze your decisions before you talk about them or do ideas and thoughts blurt out without much forethought?
Would you describe yourself as a peace-keeper or a trouble-maker?
What type of social gatherings do you prefer - small groups or large parties?
If you were married when you died, would you want your mate to feel completely free to marry again? How long do you think he or she should wait before dating again?
Do you experience PMS? Is it mild or severe? How does your mood change and for how many days? How do you want to be treated during your period?
What do you tend to be humble about? When do you catch yourself being arrogant?
Do you tend to keep a lot of thoughts and feelings to yourself or do you share them pretty openly?
Do you ever lose your temper? How does it manifest itself?
If you were single, what rules would you have about seeing people who were already involved with someone or who had just broken up? What about co-workers or other people you deal with on a daily basis? What experiences have led you to these rules?
How long could you spend with your partner until you needed a little break and some time alone?
Do you give money to homeless people/beggars? Why or why not?
What experiences usually make you filled with joy?
Men, what do you think is the best thing about being a guy? Women, what do you think is the best thing about being a female?
What five things have you done in your life that you are most proud of?
Tell me about the most emotional cry that you can recall.
Has there ever been a time when you felt like you were going to "lose it"?
If your partner had an affair, how would you react? Could you forgive him or her?
On which topics do you feel qualified at giving advice?
Would you make a serious attempt to lose weight if your partner asked you to?
How do you think I could enjoy life more?
If you could make any three changes to our school systems, what would they be?
If you could live one year of your life all over again without changing a thing, what year would you choose? Why?
Do you prefer receiving expensive gifts or ones that come from the heart?
Prior to this year, what is the best gift you've ever received? Why was it so special?
How do feel about your mate reading your private email?
Are you camera shy? Why?
Do you feel that you need to be occasionally held or emotionally supported by someone who is strong? Why or why not?
Do you generally make to do lists? Would you like it or be offended if your mate helped you make a to do list?
Do you feel like you waste a lot of time? Do you wish you didn't? Do you feel that your partner wastes a lot of time? Does that bother you?
Do you tend to be punctual or are you usually late?
What meal would you eat most often if you could? Do you have a favorite "fancy" meal?
What's your favorite candy bar?
What is your favorite ethnic cuisine?
Are there any types of pets that you refuse to live with (snakes, rats, stray dogs, etc.)?
Do you feed your pets food off of your plate? How do you feel about that practice?
If you went bald, would you consider wearing a toupee or getting hair plugs?
Would you want your spouse to talk with you first before they dramatically changed their hairstyle or facial hair?
Which do you think you would rather have: a gorgeous mate who wasn't very interested in sex or very good in bed or a very ordinary looking spouse that was awesome in the sack?
If you could be any height and build you desire, what would it be?
Should your sweetheart love you just the way you are, or would you be willing to make some changes (the way you dress, shaving, new hairstyle, etc) to become more attractive to him or her?
In what ways are you smart?
How would you feel if your mate wanted to wear matching outfits or dress like you?
Do you fear looking older?
How do you feel about women wearing makeup? What do you think is ideal?
Second hand smoke is one of the leading causes of cancer and breathing related illnesses. Will you allow anyone to smoke around your children? If you smoke now would you make a serious attempt to quit before having children?
Do you think tobacco should be banned since it is an addictive drug? If that happened what affect would it have on people's lives 20 years from now?
Should marijuana be made legal? How would that change affect society 20 years from now?
Do you try to eat healthy meals? Organic?
Are you currently on any medication? What for?
On average, how many alcoholic beverages do you have in a week? Is that all at once, on the weekend or spread about through the week?
Do you always like to sample your partner's food in restaurants? Does it bother you if someone always wants to taste your food/drink?
Do you like to plan your week's menu in advance or cook whatever you are in the mood for (or have ingredients for)?
Do you enjoy cooking for company or do you feel inadequate?
Do you tend to get sea sick or motion sick? What cures have you tried?
Do you enjoy camping? What eating/sleeping arrangements are tolerable?
Who looks after your home when you are away on vacation?
What sort of research, if any, do you do before you travel somewhere?
How do you feel about going on weekend getaways?
If you enjoy traveling, what places do you like to go to most often? Are there any places you have no desire to go to?
What do you think about pornography? Do you think it is ever helpful?
How do you feel about gambling? If your company sent you on a business trip to Las Vegas, what limit would you place on yourself for gambling each day?
To what extent are you involved in politics?
How do you feel about having guns in your home?
Is there anything you would physically fight for?
If you found a wallet with $300 cash in it, would you return it to its owner? Would you turn it into the police if there was no identification in it?
Do you feel strongly against people wearing fur coats?
Are you liberal, conservative or somewhere in the middle?
Do you think your parents are/were racist? How did that affect the way you think about people of other races?
From your past relationships, do you think that most people learn from their mistakes or do they simply keep repeating them?
Do you believe that most people are trustworthy and honest?
Tell me about the biggest lie you've ever told? Why did you tell it and how did you feel afterwards?
What do you do to protect the environment? Do you think you should do more?
If you are a Christian, what does the word "submission" in Ephesians 5:21,22 mean?
How do you feel that a husband can “submit” in marriage?
Do you believe all religions are worshipping God the way He wants us to?
Do you believe that if you give money to churches or charity that you will be financially rewarded? Rewarded in other ways?
What do you think it means to receive Christ as your Savior and Lord or "have you been saved"?
Have you ever personally received Christ as your Savior and Lord? Yes/No/Unsure If yes, Where? When?
What would you like to happen to your body (buried, cremated, donated to science, etc.) when you die? Do you have this stipulation in writing anywhere?
What are your father's and mother's religious backgrounds?
Do you keep your car clean or do you allow it to pile up with trash first?
If you and your spouse had two cars, one much nicer than the other, who do you think should drive the newer vehicle? Would it make any difference if only one of you worked?
Do you enjoy going on long road trips as the driver? As the passenger?
Do you usually have to work on any of the major holidays?
How did you celebrate birthdays as a child? How do you like to celebrate yours now?
Do you get emotional (irritated, sad, joyous, etc.) before or after any holidays? Which ones and why?
What is the bare minimum you expect in a home?
Do you keep things that have no real use and will probably never been used again (old newspapers, magazines, broken appliances, etc.)? Would you be willing to throw out or let your mate help you go through your "junk" if the clutter began to affect your r
How do you feel about your mate redecorating without consulting you?
What do you like/dislike about the town(s) where you grew up?
What temperature do you like it in the house during the winter? Summer?
Would it bother you if I walked around the house naked?
How often do you feel the sheets should be changed?
Do you enjoy going to amusement parks? Do you like going on the thrill rides?
Do you regularly go to musicals, operas or plays? If not, why?
Do you prefer to spend most weekends lazing around the house, getting out of the house or being productive?
Do you think you read too much or too little?
Do you collect anything? What and how long have you collected? To what lengths do you go to add to your collection? How much do you spend each year on your collections?
How many books do you usually read in a year? What type of books do you read?
Do you think your family should have a limit on the hours of television watched each day? Would you be willing to start this week?
How often do you go to concerts? What kinds? Would you go more often if you had more time/money?
If you had a day to yourself with nothing that had to be done, how would you pamper yourself?
Do you enjoy shopping, don't care one way or the other, or detest shopping? Does it change whether it is for clothes, electronics or food?
If your mate had great interest in some sport or activity that you had absolutely no liking or interest in, would you try to like it or would you simply encourage him or her to do it without you? If your mate didn't like your hobby would you cut back sign
What are your three favorite board/card games?
On weekends how late do you like to stay out? On work nights?
Do you enjoy talking about yourself - your job, your vacations, your accomplishments, etc.?
Do you usually return phone calls and emails within a day?
Are you good at taking phone messages or passing along important calendar dates to your partner?
Do you sense that others may think that you talk too much about yourself?
What are your career goals 1, 5 and 20 years from now?
Do you think you are a harder worker than most people at your job? Are you happy with doing an average job?
How often do you call in sick when you are not really ill?
Is your business/line of work seasonal? What do you do during the slow periods?
What changes do you think I would need to make to better enjoy my career?
If you and your mate have significantly different levels of education, do you feel that it is hard to have a conversation on a level that is interesting and stimulating to you?
If someone wanted to finance the startup of your business with no strings attached, what business would you start?
How important is it to you that your mate is intelligent? More or less important than looks?
Have you ever felt that a promotion has been given to someone else when you were much more deserving? How did you handle it?
Do you have a role model in your profession? What about them do you admire?
What to date has been your greatest source of learning?
Did you go to college? Where? What degree(s) did you get, if any?
Do you think your education has paid off? How?
Is your current job position where you thought you'd be five years ago?
How much time do you currently spend working? What hours do you work? Will that change when you are married and have a family to come home to?
If your great uncle left you $100,000 in his will with the stipulation that you had to invest it for 15 years before you could touch it, what would you do with the money? Be as specific as possible.
Have you ever saved for a major expense or purchase or have you always put it on credit?
Do you get stressed out when finances are really tight?
In your successful relationships, are the people a lot like you or are they more like opposites?
How much debt do you think a couple should shoulder themselves with the first year or two of marriage given that financial problems early in a marriage is one of the leading causes of divorce?
Do you think you could function without a credit card? Have you ever tried?
What do you put on your credit cards?
Did you complete your taxes from this previous year? Who did them? Do you always file on time?
What sort of plans have you made for retirement?
Do you have money invested in the stock market? Do you check your stocks every day? How often do you make trades?
Do you think it is wise to lend significant amounts of money to boyfriends/girlfriends? Could it cloud the relationship?
Do you think you have ever been "used" for money?
Would you rather live modestly and retire modestly at 50 or would you rather live more extravagantly and retire modestly at 65?
Have you ever gotten a second job to help pay for your non-essential purchases?
Have you ever filed for bankruptcy?
Have you ever made a loan to someone of a large sum of money? Would you do it again?
If your parents were to give you $30,000 to spend on a wedding, would you be willing to spend only $5,000 on the wedding and put $25,000 down on a house if that was acceptable to your parents?
Given that nearly 50% of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce do you think prenuptial agreements indicate lack of trust or is it acting wisely to protect what you have worked so hard for? What do you think would be fair terms in the agreement?
When men and women are dating, who do you think should pay for the date? Whoever arranged the date? Whoever makes the most money? Always dutch? Some other arrangement?
What sort of tipper are you? Always 15%? Or more or less depending on the service?
What are some things you have learned from me?
Do you think you have dated/gotten to seriously know enough people to know for certain when a great match comes along?
How many people have you dated that you said "I Love You" to?
What do you think is the secret behind couples that have been happily married for over 30 years?
Have you ever said anything to me that you wish you could take back?
What do/did you most enjoy about being single?
What do/did you dislike the most about being single?
Why would you like to be married some day?
Is there anything that you feel like telling your mom or dad but you haven't? Do you think it would cause more damage to you if you said it? If not, why haven't you told him?
If you are dating someone, at what stage do you think it is wise to bring up the idea of marriage? If you bring up the subject before both of you are really ready to take it to the next level, what potential problems could that cause?
How can I help you with your struggles?
How do you feel about your mate greeting friends (or strangers) with a kiss?
How do you think you can help me to become a better person?
Is there anyone from your past that you still have strong feelings for? Are they still alive?
What mistakes have you seen in other couples that you want to make sure doesn't happen in your marriage?
Do you keep pictures of your past lovers? Would it bother you if your spouse had photos of past lovers? What about old boyfriends/girlfriends they were not intimate with?
Have you ever been stalked by anyone? What did you do?
What do you find most frustrating about men in general? What about women?
Do we have any unresolved disagreements between us?
How much of your current single life do you want to maintain after you are married?
How long do you think most people can "be on their best behavior" and hide their real selves during a courtship?
Is religion important in your daily life? Why or why not?
How to do feel about those who are in different religions? Do you believe that God has a plan to save the whole world from eternal death (those who want to be saved) or only those who hear and believe the "truth" in this lifetime?
Were you afraid of God as a child?
Do you think God created rules and instructions (a religion) to help men keep close to him? Or do you think man just made up those rules?
Do you have spiritual yearnings? What questions to life are you trying to figure out?
How many hours a week do you typically devote to your religious practices (e.g. going to church, prayer meetings, bible study, etc.)?
Do you believe in reincarnation?
Would you be willing to go through a workshop or class that discussed the basic beliefs and doctrines of your partner’s church?
How does your faith help you cope with problems and trials?
Are there evil spirits in the world? Do you fear them?
Do you support (with money and/or time) any charities or causes?
If your dear friends wanted you to donate sperm or eggs because they were infertile, would you do so? How would you feel about your mate doing so? What about donating them for a couple that would remain anonymous?
Do you believe there is one right person for you out there in the world or that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with?
What sort of emotions (rage, anger, sorrow, etc.) do you think are inappropriate for people to express publicly?
What are your thoughts on handguns that serve no other real purpose than shooting people?
Have you ever stolen anything? Why? Were you caught?
Do you like to be the life of the party or do you prefer intimate, one on one conversation?
Are you more of an introvert or an extrovert? Does it change depending on the crowd?
If your partner had a one-night fling after drinking too much, how would you react? Could you forgive him or her?
Have you ever been in a relationship that you wish you never had?
Are you able to keep secrets? Is it hard for you?
Does anyone give you an inferiority complex?
Do you have a fear of being alone? Rejected? Unloved?
Is there anything that makes you feel homesick, nostalgic or sentimental?
Do you have an idol? Do you try to model yourself after him or her in some way?
Do you think of yourself more as a leader or a follower?
Over the last five years how do you think you have changed for the worse? Better?
Did you have a point in your life where you turned your life around?
What one thing could you change in your behavior that would make your relationship closer? What is keeping you from making that change?
Is there anything that you constantly worry about?
If someone tells you a juicy tidbit about a friend or coworker, do you have difficulty keeping it to yourself? Do you ever tell people they shouldn't gossip?
If you were paid a salary to work for any one charity for an entire year, which charity would you choose?
Would you rather be mute, blind or deaf? Which of the three would be the worst?
Is there anything that you have practically no self-control over (ice cream, offers for a roll in the hay, a bargain shoe sale, a beanie baby for your collection, etc.)?
Do you think you are interesting or a bore?
Are you more sensitive than most people of your gender?
Do you usually ask for help or support or do you prefer to fail all on your own?
If you had huge financial losses and had to liquidate all of your possessions including your car and home, what would that do to your self-esteem?
What makes you feel important?
How would you rate your maturity among your peers?
What is your number one flaw? What steps are you taking to overcome it?
Do you see yourself as worthy of love? Why or why not?
What is your greatest disappointment?
What is your favorite snack food? Dessert? What's your favorite ice cream flavor?
Do you have a favorite and least favorite day of the week? Why do you feel that way?
What is your favorite time of day?
Do you take your pets with you on short trips? Long vacations? Do you put them in a kennel or have a friend watch them?
Do you have a preference for cats or dogs? Indoor pets vs. outdoor pets?
What first attracted you to me? How has that one attraction changed since then?
What physical or personality trait do you think makes people first attracted to you?
Do you really like the way I dress? What changes could I make that would please you?
What do you find attractive about my physical features? Is there a favorite?
If you were single and wanted to write a personal ad describing your qualities, how would it read?
What is your opinion on women spending money to get their nails done? Do you have a preference on how you like women's nails?
What do you perceive to be your physical flaws?
Do you think that dressing is something you do out of necessity or do you enjoy putting outfits together?
If your aunt left you a large sum of money in her will for you to have any sort of plastic surgery you desired would you have anything done?
Name one or two minor changes I could make to my appearance that would make me more attractive?
Do you have any concerns over vaccinations or flu shots for you or your children?
Do you have any concerns about my health or unhealthy habits?
Do you have any special dietary needs? How do you need me to support you with this need?
Do you find that you eat when you are bored, stressed, or worried? Are there emotional times that make you want to eat?
Are you more likely to take over the counter medicines, prescription medicines, homeopathic medicines, natural remedies or nothing at all when you are sick?
Do you cook or do you only eat prepackaged food? How often do you go out to eat?
Do you usually just buy what food you need at the store, whatever is on sale, or whatever looks good?
Are you highly critical of the food and service when you dine out? Can you go out and enjoy a meal or do you always have to "rate" it?
Are you fearful of germs or food poisoning and tend to toss everything out of the refrigerator that is more than a week old?
What is your definition of "cheating" on your mate?
Do drink coffee? If so, how many times a week and how many cups each day? Do you feel that you need a caffeine "fix" to get going for the day?
Do you ever drink and drive? Would you agree not to if your partner had a big problem with you doing so?
Do you have any allergies?
Were you taught proper table manners growing up? Do you feel that your table manners need improving? Would you like for your mate to point out where you could improve? Do your partner's table manners embarrass you when you eat in public?
Have you been abused in any way - sexually, emotionally, or physically? Do you still have emotional scars from it? Have you ever counseled about it?
Are you a gourmet - enjoying trying all sorts of international cuisine or do you prefer to eat the same basic food all the time?
Do you enjoy experiencing different ways of life or do you usually find it frustrating that they don't do things as efficiently or like the way things are done back home?
Do you usually do some business while you are on vacation (answering email, checking voicemail, returning phone calls, etc.)? How much time each day? Is that pretty much necessary?
If you could plan any vacation for us, where would it be?
How do you handle the language barrier when you travel to foreign countries? Are you willing to visit places where your language might not be spoken?
Do you think you would enjoy going on a vacation with your sweetheart's family? Would you detest it or do you not know them well enough to decide?
What are your thoughts on separate vacations? If we had limited income and different travel priorities, do you think we should take vacations without each other every once in a while?
Do you arrive at the airport ahead of time in case problems arise or do you try to get there at the last possible minute so you don’t have to wait?
Do you save up for a vacation or do you put it all on credit and pay it off as you can?
How many weeks each year can you take off from work?
If we ended up having opposite political views, how would that affect our relationship? Any particular issue you would find difficult to tolerate the opposite viewpoint?
If we practice different religions, what problems might that cause with our wedding, the way we celebrate holidays, and how we will raise our children?
Do you believe that mankind is created with free-will (the ability to make right or wrong decisions) or that everything in life is predestined (planned out for you)?
Is there any way we could use religion to help fill our marriage with love and peace?
Do you want a church wedding. If so, why?
Do you believe that the Bible is the inspired Word of God? Why?
What do you do with your junk mail?
Do you clean up the kitchen after every meal? Each night? Or when you run out of dishes or company is coming over?
What role does art play in your life?
How personally involved do you get with "your" team's performance? If they lose, does it make you angry or put you in a bad mood?
Do you like any activities that are daring or risky?
How many hours of TV do you watch in an average day? When do you turn the television on and when do you turn it off?
If someone wanted to give you a $50 gift certificate to use on yourself, which store/theatre/spa would you tell him or her you wanted.
What sort of physical affection do you think is appropriate in public? Does it matter whether or not the couple is married?
What one thing could we do to improve our dates together?
How do you tend to express love for your sweetheart? (Things you do, Things you say, Gifts you buy, etc.?)
What are some things that your partner has done for you that really made you feel loved?
What's the most romantic thing that's ever been done for you?
What's the most romantic thing you've ever done?
In what ways do you like to be romanced?
What is your definition of "romance"?
Is it difficult for you to say "I love you"?
Do you need to hear "I love you" or similar words on a regular basis from your partner?
Did you grow up in an ethnic or culturally unique community? What role does it play in your life? Will you want to stay active in that community when you get married?
In what ways do you think your parents could select a better mate for you than you could?
If your family hated the person you were dating and voiced strong opinion against you marrying him or her, would you get married anyway?
How have you changed since high school? What would your high school pals think about you now?
What does my family do that annoys you?
Do you enjoy hosting out of town guests in your home? If so, how long?
Have you ever worked really hard at something but it didn't pay off in the end?
Do you have a "special place"? Why is it so meaningful to you?
Why do you feel that you are trustworthy?
Do you think you are competitive? In what areas?
Am I a nagger? How so? Does it irritate you?
Are there any rituals you do every day?
Do you know most of your neighbors? Do you ever socialize with any of them?
Have you ever lived alone? Do you or did you enjoy it?
Someone once said "A women who does not feel loved needs jewelry, gold and dazzling gifts to be happy. A woman who truly feels loved finds those gifts to be superfluous (nice, but not necessary)". Do you agree?
If you get a pet for your children and they don't take care of it, who will be responsible for cleaning up after it, feeding it and walking it?
How do you feel about getting dogs professionally groomed?
Are you currently comfortable with your body? If not, what would you change to make you comfortable?
How would you feel if I had breast implants?
If you could change one thing about your body, what would it be?
What outfit of mine is your favorite? Why is it?
If your partner asked you to shave or not to shave (face, underarms, legs, pubic area) would you do it? What is your preference for shaving those areas?
If you and your mate purchased a pet and later split up, how do you think you would decide who got the pet?
How do you feel about pets being in the bedroom or sleeping on your bed?
Do you have any rooms that are off limits for bringing in food?
Will you eat everything on your plate no matter how much is there (assuming you like the food)? Or will you quit when you feel full enough? Do you need to feel "stuffed" to be satisfied?
When you go on a vacation with someone, do you like doing everything together, most things together or most things on your own and then getting back together for meals?
If you and your mate each have an income and maintain separate accounts, how do you split the costs of a vacation?
Do you have any religious, ethical or cultural reasons why you think people of different races should not marry?
Have you ever been in a committed relationship where your partner slept with someone else? Did it end the relationship?
How often do you pray? Why do you pray?
Do you have any superstitions? What are they?
The Bible emphatically states that eternal life only comes through belief in Jesus Christ and his sacrifice. If you are a Christian, how do you feel about living with someone who does not have the same hope of eternal life? What if they worshipped some ot
If you and your mate had significantly different religious beliefs, what would you teach your children about God? Would you want your mate to teach your children things that contradict your beliefs?
Do you believe most people who convert to their mate’s religion do so out of keeping peace in the family or because they sincerely understand and believe the tenets of their mate's faith? Does it matter?
Does your religion have a policy on contraception? What is it?
Do you find that driving with your partner is pleasant or stressful?
Do you personally wash and wax your car? How often?
If your partner asked you to slow down or to drive more carefully, would you?
How clean do you keep your house?
Do you usually put things back where they belong soon after you use them?
What crazy thing have you done in the name of "love"?
What chore do you most detest?
Do you make your bed every day? Does it bother you if it is left unmade?
What rituals could be added to our relationship on a daily, weekly, monthly and yearly basis that would help us to remain close?
How do you think it would affect the relationship if a woman often cannot reach climax? If it was a problem how would you try to solve it?
Do you think it is important that a couple have sex the first night they are married? If it has been a long and tiring day, would that make any difference?
Do you think that one should mainly focus on pleasing themselves during sex or pleasing their partner? Why?
To what extend do you think God expects us to follow and obey religious leaders?
If you don't go to church at all or very often, do you think that might change when you have children? Why wait until then?
Can you think of anything that might make you want to stop attending church?
Do you believe that the Satan of the Bible actually exists? If so, what is he doing? Why is he evil?
Which religions do you think are the most harmful and destructive?
Some people say they are "spiritual" but not "religious". What does that mean to you?
What goals do you have for your marriage?
What are you top ten goals for your lifetime?
In what ways does our relationship help and/or hinder the achievement of your goals?
How much do you spend on wedding gifts? Birthday presents? Christmas gifts?
Do you think partners should spend the same amount on each other for Christmas? What amount? What if one partner earns far more than the other and you keep separate accounts?
Do you snore? Can someone hear you snoring from another room?
What are your sleeping habits (do you steal the covers, sprawl all over the bed, etc.)?
How do you feel about your partner using your toothbrush?
There are many types of love. Can you name some and tell how they are different?
How powerful is peer pressure to you? Do you feel you need to live in a similar fashion as your friends? Did you have problems with peer pressure in your earlier years?
Which family member are you closest to? Has it always been that way?
Have you given any thought to how you will take care of your mom and dad when they are older and need assistance?
What is your relationship with your siblings?
What makes the difference between a good husband and a great husband? Good wife and a great wife?
What did you most enjoy doing with your family when you were a kid?
Do you enjoy doing yard work? Do you expect your mate to help you with the yard work? Or for them to do it without you?
Do you use your yard for any activities?
How do you feel about friends, relatives or people in need living in your house for a year?
What's the biggest fight you've had with your family? Has the issue been completely settled?
Can you live in a place that has junk in the yard (broken down vehicles, old appliances, ratty furniture, etc.)? Does your yard currently have junk in it? What are your plans for the junk? Would you do everyone a favor and haul it to the dump this week?
Do you prefer a low maintenance yard or a style that demands a bit of work? What style do you like (lots of lawn, lots of flowers, tropical, desert, large vegetable garden, etc.)
If you pray, what do you give thanks for and what do you ask for?
Do you fear God? Why or why not?
Do you believe that God does anything that does not make sense? Can you always apply human logic to analyze religion?
If we currently attend the same church but years from now I lost interest and stopped attending, how do you think that might affect our marriage?
Have you ever been engaged? What happened?
Who do you think should be responsible for grocery shopping and cooking in a marriage? When you are married how many times a week do you think you would eat out?
What foods do you really dislike? Are there any foods you don't eat for health or other reasons?
Have you ever been hospitalized? What for? What was the experience like?
What do you think are my talents? Do you think you have any of the same talents?
Do you think that you are able to calmly and wisely react in emergencies? What are some examples of emergencies you have had?
How do you think I handle myself when I'm in a crisis situation?
Are you a coupon collector? Do you sometimes get fanatical about saving money on groceries?
What do you think about eating meals (with your family) in front of the television? Do you think family time and discussions around the dinner table are important?
Do you remember your first alcoholic drink? What were the circumstances?
Which meals would you like to be able to eat together? Do you think we will be able to consistently do so?
What are some things that you consider a waste of time?
What do you like most about my personality?
In a past relationship, did you ever play games? How so?
How many times a day/week do you take a shower or bath? Do you bathe in the morning or night?
How many times a day do you brush your teeth?
Do you think your partner is "romantic"? If not, how could he or she improve?
Do you like a breeze blowing on you while you are asleep?
How important to you is a house that is clean and without clutter? Would you be willing to clean the house to your liking if your spouse doesn't clean it to your satisfaction?
How have your family been poor role models for relationships?
Did one of your parents love you more than the other?
Do you think it is risky or unhealthy for your mate to have a best friend's of the opposite sex?
After you have used a towel, where do you put it? How often do you feel that towels should be replaced with fresh ones? Would you want to share your mate's towel or have your own?
Describe your getting ready for work/getting ready for bed ritual.
How often do you think a bathroom needs to be cleaned? Have you ever cleaned a toilet?
Did you ever hear or see your parents fighting when you were a child? How did it make you feel?
What is the most important thing you learned from your mother? What are some other things she taught you?
Can you have good conversations with someone you were just introduced to?
When you really don't feel like talking to me, why is that?
Do you prefer to stay in touch with others by letter, email, or the phone?
If I get offended or irritated at something you say or do, what is the best way for me to bring it up so that you don't get angry?
Do you think someone should ever correct his or her mate in public?
How often do you feel that you really don't know your partner? Will time fill in the gaps or do you feel that your partner won't open up and you may never really know him or her?
Have you ever hired a gardener? Do you think they are a waste of money or money well spent?
Do you put toxic poisons on your yard (weed killer, etc.)? How do you feel about using those chemicals?
Do any of your friends have things that make you envious?
What place do you believe religion will have in our lives?
Why do you think the Bible states that Christians should meet regularly with other believers and worship Him?
Does your partner have any religious beliefs that you feel are plain wrong (not going to doctors, no birth control, animal sacrifices, not wearing make-up, etc.) and you will not go along with?
Do you ever think that your partner gives more time, love and affection to a child or pet and it makes you jealous?
Do you think I am a lot like the other members of my family? How am I like them?
What are your thoughts on crying?
Can you think of any trait of mine that reminds you of your father or mother?
If you could build a vacation home anywhere in the world, where would you build it?
When taking off your clothes, do you immediately put them in the hamper if dirty, hang them up or fold them if clean or leave them on the floor?
How often do you see your family? Do you think that's enough or too much?
Do you wear anything in your hair or on your face when you go to sleep? How about a retainer or orthodontic equipment?
Do you expect that both you and your mate would go to bed that the same time each night? How would you feel if your mate wanted to stay up several hours after you went to bed? What time do you usually go to bed on a work night? Non-work night?
Do you think you are a romantic person? Could you convince a jury?
How many hours a week do you usually spend taking care of your yard?
Do you have a desire for a lot of land with your home? How much?
Do you feel that the pluses outweigh the minuses regarding having a television in the bedroom? What are the positives and negatives?
Does it bother you if you mate leaves their hair in the sink?
If you and your mate decide to get a hot tub or a pool in the future, who would be responsible for cleaning it?
Have you ever written a love letter? Do you save old love letters?
Which of your friends is most successful? Would you like to have the same level of success?
What positive things have you learned from observing your parents' marriage?
Do you think you are a good influence on your friends or do you think they need you to be a good influence on them? How are they a bad influence?
Have your grandparents taught you anything really important or profound?
What is your parents' nationality? Were you raised in that culture or do you know much about it?
Do you like your last name? If you don't like it, would you consider changing it?
If I thought we needed help keeping our finances under control and suggested a “debt counselor” would you go with me?
What is the minimum amount you think you could spend on a wedding and be happy with it?
Do you think our family has the right to know your financial affairs (whether you are rich or deep in debt)? What would you tell them if they asked how much money you and your spouse make or how much money you have in the bank?
Do you think it is appropriate to use sex as a negotiating tool? Is it ever healthy for a husband/wife to withhold sex from their mate?
What sort of wedding do you envision having? For what reasons would you have a completely different type of wedding or even elope?
Would you let your teenager drink alcohol, smoke or do drugs? If not, how would you try to keep him or her from doing so?
Have you ever thought you were in love and realized that you were only infatuated or you were quite deceived? How long did it take for you to realize it wasn't real love?
How could I make your life easier or more comfortable?
At this stage in your life do you think you would prefer having children or being child-free? Do you think your feeling might change?
Are there any parts of a couple's private life that should not be discussed with family or friends?
Do you think your partner can listen to you and do something else (like watch TV or read the paper) at the same time? Can you?
Do you think your partner talks too much on the phone and neglects you or other important things?
Are you interested in an offbeat wedding (at a nudist beach, underwater, on a roller coaster, etc.)?
What are the pros for eloping? What are the cons? Does it sound appealing to you?
Who will pay for your wedding? Does that person then have control over wedding plans?
What are your thoughts on adopting children if you were unable to have children of our own? Would you adopt even if you could have children? Would you prefer surrogate motherhood or fatherhood to adoption?
If you had a son, would you want him to be circumcised? Why? Have you read any literature on the pros/cons of circumcision?
After the birth of your child, how much time would you want to take off from work? Do you have strong feelings about the mom staying home with the children until a certain age?
How do you usually feel when you are with me for an entire day?
What makes you think you will be a great husband or wife?
If your spouse was having serious doubts about themselves or the marriage and wanted to be separated for six months to think things over, would you agree and personally live as though you still married or would that signal to you that you are free to date
Do you believe children should be seen and not heard? Why or why not?
If the doctors detected that your unborn child had a severe birth defect and they could easily abort it, would you still have the baby?
Do you think parents should provide cars for their teenagers if they are financially able? Would you allow your teenager to buy his or her own car if he or she had the funds?
Are you content with your current job? If not, why?
What was the best job you ever had? Why was it?
Would it ever be OK or desirable that you or your spouse didn't work?
Does your mate usually interrupt your sentences? Do you find it irritating? Does your mate monopolize the conversation, making it hard to speak?
Did your family tend to share feelings and emotions when you were growing up?
If you have something that you really need to do, but you keep forgetting about it, how should I remind you without being a nag?
Do you think we should spend certain holidays with certain families or would you like to spend holidays alone (and with any kids we might have) for a change?
If you have children from another relationship, how do you negotiate with whom they spend the holidays?
What are your thoughts about couples renewing their vows?
If your sweetheart had a bachelor or bachelorette party is there anything you would find inappropriate? Would you agree not to allow anything to occur at your party that your mate feels inappropriate?
How do you feel about your mate showing up at your wedding drunk or with a hangover? How do you feel about him or her getting drunk at the wedding?
Is there anything that you know of that works as an aphrodisiac for you?
Is it difficult for you to ask your mate for certain kinds of stimulation?
Does a person's sexual past matter if you really love them?
If you and your spouse worked, who would take care of any children you had?
If you wanted to become a one-income household after the birth of your child, what lifestyle changes would need to take place?
Do you have a preference of the sort of food you would like your children to eat? (vegetarian, organic, no sugar, etc?) Would you be willing to change your eating habits to match what you think your children should be eating?
How often do you call your parents/family members?
Would you like it if your partner massaged you without expecting any sexual outcome? If you don't give your mate massages, why not?
People like to be shown love in different ways. What are some of the ways you like to be shown that someone loves you?
From previous relationships, what was the best date you had? What was the best date we have been on?
If you are in a grouchy mood, should I leave you alone or do something else?
Do you think people who decide not to have children because they don't have a strong desire are selfish or wise?
Who do you think should go to parent/teacher conferences?
What do you think about drinking in front of children? What about getting drunk?
How much should a husband participate in the care of a baby? (i.e. feeding, changing diapers, late-night responsibilities, etc)? Does it depend who is the more gifted caregiver?
If the woman in the relationship earns more money than the man how does that make you feel?
Has anyone every pressured you to get married?
Have you ever considered marrying someone because you were fearful that no one else would come along and you would rather be married than single and lonely?
If a couple has been very unhappy for five years and has tried counseling with no success, do you think they should get a divorce even though no cheating or abuse has taken place?
If there are some things from my past that are just too painful or uncomfortable to share is that ok with you? Would you be able to commit to someone who can't share everything?
Over 75% of couples that live together before getting married end up divorcing. Do you think you would be one of the exceptions or do think that living together before marriage probably hurts a relationship more than it helps?
Have you ever gotten revenge on someone? What did they do? What did you do in return?
How would you feel if your spouse raised their voice (shouted) at you?
Would you want to do a sexual act even if your spouse thought it was very unappealing?
Do you generally prefer sex to be very active and hot or gentle and warm?
Have you ever slept with a person you now know has a sexually transmitted disease (about 1 in 5 adults have some sort of STD)? Have you ever been tested for a STD and what was the outcome? If you are infected, how has it affected your relationships?
Do you think you want any (more) children? How soon?
Do you think parents should foot the bill for their children's college expenses or do you think children actually appreciate and learn more when they have to pay all or a significant part themselves?
In your current relationship do you feel that it is often more work than fun? Do you think that is a sign something might be wrong or do you think that is how all relationships are?
What are your thoughts about telling jokes at your partner's expense?
Currently, how much personal privacy do you desire? Would it bother you if your mate was in the bathroom while you were using the toilet or the shower?
Do you have any strong preferences on naming your children?
Do you think you could learn some important things from a parenting class? Would you be willing to go?
Should we try to move to an area that has a really good school system for our children?
Would you want your children to be home schooled? Why or why not?
When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up?
How do you feel about mixing business with family? Business with friends? Do you have any experiences with either scenario?
Have you given any thought to how you would want to discipline your children during early childhood, adolescent years and the teen years? Be specific.
Do you think that constantly buying your children new toys teaches them to become easily bored with things?
What, if anything, do you feel you need to sacrifice or compromise in our relationship to make it happy?
How many minutes of undivided attention per day do you give your lover? Is that usually enough?
What exactly do marriage vows mean to you? What are legitimate grounds for divorce, if any?
Have you ever been in a relationship where you believe one person was 100% to blame for some of its problems?
How do you feel about women putting on makeup to make love? Do you find it sexy or silly?
Do you feel sexier with a tan? Do you think your mate looks sexier? Do you think tan, "leathery" skin is sexy?
If I asked you to cut back the time you spend with people or activities and spend more time with me would you do it?
Who is your best friend? What about this person makes them so special?
Ideally, what characteristics would your friends have?
What have your friends taught you?
Which of us has the best skills at paying the bills and keeping track of our expenses? Which of us has the best skills for investing our money?
Are you currently satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends you have? Why or why not?
Early in the dating stage, how strongly do you consider your friends and family's opinion as to whether you should continue seeing someone?
When was the last time you called your Mom, just to tell her you love her? Your Dad?
How long do you think you could stay with my parents before you became unhappy or resentful?
When you are in a serious relationship do you tend to ignore your friends? Have you ever had friends get married and suddenly lose contact with their single friends? Is that to be expected?
Have you ever had to deal with conflict in you family? How did you do it?
If you are a Christian, how can you put the focus of the Christmas season on Jesus Christ?
Who should be responsible for sending holiday cards and thank you notes from the family?
How do you think a married couple should celebrate their wedding anniversary? Does it always have to be the same way?
Have you ever dated someone just because they had (or you thought they had) money?
Do both you and your mate know where all the important papers are and how to pay the bills should something happen to one partner?
Do you think a room full of toys benefits or hinders children's physical and mental development?
If you had children, what role would you want the stepparent to play? If you were a stepparent, what role would you like to play?
How strong do you think a couple's marriage should be and how financially stable should they be before they try to have children?
How many of your friends and family would you want to invite (and expect to show up) to your wedding?
Do you belong to a culture that has certain expectations regarding weddings and receptions?
Would you get tested for sexually transmitted diseases if I asked you?
What kind of clothing do you find sexy? What sort of lingerie/underwear would you find most sexy on me for a special night?
Do you have any concerns about having sex during pregnancy?
What method of birth control do you prefer? Why?
Do you think a woman should take a man last's name? Why or why not? How about hyphenated last names? Would the man consider a hyphenated last name too?
Do you have a vision of a perfect honeymoon (or second honeymoon)?
What in your opinion are the three best things about your lover?
What rules do you have that would result in eviction of your teenagers? How many warnings would you give them?
Do you regularly give financial support to your adult children? Why? How would you feel if your spouse kept bailing your children out of trouble by giving them food, money or letting them live at home?
What do you think is the best relationship advice you've ever received? Did the person giving it have a great marriage?
Do you have health insurance? If we were to get married, would it be better to combine the insurance under one employer?
What problems do you see with the "my money, your money" approach to finances in a marriage?
What is your dream car? Where would you have to be financially to justify the expense?
How much do you owe on all your credit cards? All other loans?
Do our incomes cover our expenses? Separately, and if pooled together? How much do each of us spend each month/year on the following categories: housing, clothing, food, entertainment, debt payment, and miscellaneous expenses. Should we cut back spending
If you married someone who had a lot of debt and bills, how would you feel about helping your mate pay them off?
How are you and your partner exactly the same?
Do you tend to buy luxury items or are you frugal with your money?
Look in your wallet. How many credit cards do you have? Do you need that many?
Do you currently have a will? If not, why?
If I were really bothered about you sharing our fights/disagreements with your friends and family would you agree not to do it? Or would you agree to discuss it with them only if we couldn’t solve the problem on our own within a couple of days?
What if anything would you put before your spouse?
Could you live the rest of your life with me exactly the way I am now? Or would I need to change some things for you to be able to commit a lifetime to me?
If a woman doesn't feel maternal enough to want to stay home and raise her children, is it better that she make the choice not to have children?
At what age would you tell your children about sex if they started asking questions? If they weren’t asking questions? What would you tell them? Or do you prefer they learn about sex somewhere else?
What would you do if the man has difficulty with premature ejaculation?
How would you feel if your mate lit up a cigarette right after sex?
Do you prefer your mate to make the first move or do you like to do it?
What's the biggest turn on for you?
How many months of expenses do you think we should have in savings to feel secure? If we don't already have that much, how should we build up our savings?
Do you think that parents should love and care more for their children than their mates? Do you think it is natural for parents to want to love their offspring more than the person they married?
If you just found out that you and your mate were expecting a child, how would it make you feel? How do you think your relationship would change as a result?
How much do you think a spouse should inform his or her mate regarding their schedule and whereabouts?
If you could create the perfect job and get paid well for it, what would it be?
Have you ever gone to your boss and asked for a raise? Did you threaten to quit if you didn't get it? Did you get it?
Do you have a real desire to (or feel that you really need to) get more education? What do you want to study? When do you want to start?
If you got into financial difficulties, what would you try to do to get out of it?
If you were married and inherited $200,000, how would you decide what to do with the money? Would your spouse have any input? What would you want to do if your spouse inherited the money?
Do you think your partner mismanages their money?
Who would you prefer to never speak to again? What made them so undesirable?
How would you like your partner to introduce you to others? boyfriend/girlfriend, partner, sweetheart, etc.?)
If we have children, how often would you like the children to see their grandparents? Do you have any particular concern about the children spending too much time with any of their grandparents or relatives (that are racist, alcoholics, foul-mouthed, ill-
Can you say "no" to your parents when they want you to do something you would prefer not to?
When you get married, do you think there would be any changes in your social circle? Which friendships do you think you would let go and which ones would you add?
Do you think it is important that your children be breast-fed for both health reasons and for bonding? If so, how long do you think your babies should be breast-fed (most babies are breast-fed anywhere from 6 months - 3 years)?
How do you feel about your children participating in sports where the aim is to hurt one another or there is extreme physical contact such as boxing, football or rugby?
Which, if any, household chores would you expect your children to do? Beginning at what age?
How much do you think a person should give to a church or charity? (maybe put in terms of percentage of income)
Ideally, what are the minimum number of years you think you would need to build a solid relationship/marriage before you add children to the mix?
Do you think that it is important that the father is present at the birth of his child if at all possible?
Would you want your mate to let you know if you haven't sexually satisfied them? How would you want them to tell you?
What turns you off sexually?
Is it possible for a couple to have sex too often? What problems could it cause?
If you and your spouse have disagreements about child rearing, what methods do you use?
If your child was born with a birth defect that required around the clock attention would you take care of the child yourself or let it live in a professional home for children with such disabilities?
What do you think makes the difference between a good parent and a great parent?
Do you feel that your lover is too needy at times?
Do you think you are ever obsessed with money? Is making/spending money one of the most important things to you? Do you think about money every day?
What do you think about people who want to wait until they are married to have sex?
Do you usually date people who have similar physical characteristics? What are they?
What's the largest number of people you've dated at one time? Did it cause any problems?
If you are in the mood for sex and your mate is not, would you rather your mate say "not now" or "I don't think I can climax, but I'd gladly help you get off." Would you ever want to take him or her up on it?
Have you ever watched a porno movie? If so, how often do you watch them? How often do you look at erotic magazines?
If you were ever to become addicted to pornography, how would you like me to help you break the habit?
Have you ever had a one-night stand? How did that happen? Do you regret it?
Are there any scents that turn you on?
How would our sexual relationship change if I put on a significant amount of weight?
Do you think you and your partner spend enough quality time together?
How would you feel if I began to spend more time working on my hobbies and talents if it took time away from our relationship?
Who do you think will officiate at your wedding? Do you care?
Do you have any preferences regarding the honeymoon? (hot, cold, not Las Vegas, a surprise, not a surprise, etc.)?
How long was your longest relationship? Do you regret staying in it that long?
Would you feel awkward if your partner invited former spouses or lovers to the wedding?
Do you think it is healthy for couples to fight (hurting each other emotionally or physically)? What steps could we take to express our disagreements maturely so we can have a "fight-free" relationship?
Have you ever been in a committed relationship and you slept with someone else? Did you feel guilty?
Do you still maintain friendships with former boyfriends/girlfriends? If your mate were uncomfortable about any of those friendships, would you end them?
Is there anything in your past that you need to disclose that might have serious consequences on our relationship in the future? Is there any "dirt" reporters might dig up if you were running for President?
If a teenager asked for your advice on the best way to find a mate that they could spend a lifetime of happiness with, what would you say?
Do you think you are good or bad at handling money? How could I help you improve or how could you help me improve?
Do you think life insurance is a wise "investment"?
After you are married, how much do you expect to spend on clothes each month?
How much money do you have invested or saved (stocks, annuities, retirement funds)?
Do you feel like most people respect your line of work? Do you think you get the respect you deserve?
How did you choose your major in college?
How important do you think college degrees are in getting a good job? Does the college experience help you to be a successful person in more ways than just the book knowledge?
If you were single, how do you think your life would be different?
Are there things that are easier to discuss with your friends than your partner?
Do you think I can usually read your body language? Where am I good at it and what do I usually get wrong?
When you ask your mate a question, does he or she always respond? How do you feel if you don't get a response?
Have you read any books on parenting? Do you think it is a good idea to read these books by "experts" or just go by instinct or the advice of family and friends?
How should decisions be made in the family? Does the husband have the final say or do you do things democratically?
How were you shown affection as a child? Do you think you will show your children affection the same way or differently? What do you think is the best way?
How would you feel if you only had boys or girls? Do you strongly want a particular gender?
At what age do you think you would want to let your children group date? Single date? Will you let them go "steady" when they are teenagers?
Do you have a preference between sex in the morning or at night?
How would you define satisfying sex?
On a scale of 1-10, how strong is your sex drive? Is it increasing or is it diminishing?
Do you have any sexual fetishes?
What would you do if your partner found out he or she had an STD after you had been together?
What body parts turn you on the most?
Some people think breast and penis size matter when it comes to really good sex. What are your thoughts and/or experiences?
Would you mind if your children are sexually active at the same age that you were? If you felt you had sex too early what do you think would have helped you to wait?
When you were a child, did you get an allowance? How much was it? Did you have to do chores to earn it? Would you want the same system for your children?
Do you think that if a person offends your mate they have offended you as well?
If I went to a dance or nightclub without you, how would you feel?
Can you recall what made you fall in love with your sweetheart?
What are the things that cause the most arguments in your relationships?
What do you think is the best way for couples to handle disagreements?
How do you know when you're in love and not simply infatuated?
What did your previous partners complain most about you?
From your previous experiences, when you had a fight or argument with your partner, did you first run to family or friends for advice or comfort or did first try to work things out with your partner?
In what way are you and your partner "opposites"?
Have you tended to date people older or younger than you? Why?
Have your parents given you any warnings about dating? Do you trust their advice?
How much do you feel we should spend on Christmas? Who should we buy gifts for: friends, all relatives, co-workers, mailman, etc? Or do we want to try to celebrate it spiritually without all the commercialism? If so, how do we celebrate it?
Who should plan wedding anniversaries? Would you like to rotate? Should we have a yearly budget?
How important is it that you spend the holidays with your spouse and young children?
Which family members should we buy birthday or special holidays gifts for (parents, siblings, aunts/uncles, grandparents, cousins, etc.)?
Which type of home do you think would have the most benefit for our lifestyle? Apartment (no maintenance but not much privacy and not a long term investment)? House ( regular yard work and maintenance but the most privacy)? Townhouse/condo (no yard or ext
How soon would you like to move out of our first (or current) home? Next year? Five years? After the kids move out? Never?
What do you envision our home (our realistic home - not our dream home) looking like? The architecture, the décor, the yard, etc?
What things have I done that make you question whether or not I love you?
If you were married, how would you like to meet new people to socialize with?
Are you jealous of any of the members of your family? Why?
Would you be willing to get your tubes tied or have a vasectomy?
What do you think are the purposes of sex?
Do you think answering questions about sex will help make it a better experience for us?
Do you consider these sexual experiences to be acceptable and healthy for your relationship or inappropriate and damaging to your relationship: Oral sex? Sex toys? Bondage? Threesomes, wife-swapping or orgies?
Would you like to take showers together on a regular basis, only every once in a while or do you prefer to take them alone?
What are the three most sensitive areas of your body?
Have you ever been or gotten someone pregnant?
If you were in an accident and couldn't perform sexually, do you think your lover would be able to cope with that?
If a man has problems maintaining an erection on a regular basis, what would you try to do?
Do you have a favorite sex position? Why is it your favorite?
How should we decide what position to use each time we make love? (Take turns choosing? Rotate through our favorites? Try out a new one each week? etc.)
Are there times when you just want a "quickie"? When are those?
Do you like to talk dirty during sex? Do you like it when your spouse talks dirty to you? Are there "dirty" terms that you find offensive?
What do I do that gives you the most sexual pleasure?
Do you have a favorite foreplay activity to turn you on?
Do you like to cuddle after sex?
Are there certain times of the month that your breasts are sensitive or that you don't like to be touched?
Do you like to be visually stimulated during the course of making love?
Do you feel self-stimulation is wrong or only when it is accompanied by sexual thoughts of someone besides your mate? Do you think masturbation is an acceptable form of sexual release when your mate isn't in the mood or available?
Do you have a preference of making love in the dark, by candlelight or with the lights on?
Who would you feel most comfortable talking with regarding sexual problems? Do you think they are qualified to give you good help and advice?
Are there things that I say or do that lets you know I would like to make love?
There are many romantic/sex games on the market. Do you think it would be fun to try some out?
Do you think our lovemaking should increase when we go on vacation?